Stop Walking on Eggshells By Paul Mason & Randi Kreger

Stop Walking on Eggshells

By Paul Mason & Randi Kreger

  • Release Date: 2010-01-01
  • Genre: Self-Improvement
Score: 4.5
From 170 Ratings


Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel as though you are constantly trying to avoid confrontation?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you should remember this: It’s not your fault. And you’re not alone. In fact, the person you care about may have traits associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), such as emotion dysregulation, impulsive behavior, unstable sense of self, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. No matter how much you want to be there for your loved one, at times it can feel like you are walking on eggshells.

This compassionate guide will enable you to:

• Make sense out of the chaos
• Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
• Defuse arguments and conflicts
• Protect yourself and others from violent behavior
Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.


  • Outstanding book

    By ARG3
    I broke up with my borderline personality disorder girlfriend several times. I didn't understand her behavior. This book explained all the things I was going through in the relationship
  • Look for something else.

    By DannyJH
    This book isn't very helpful in explaining the psychology behind BPD. It's basically a whole book of made up scenarios and suggestions, over and over again, they just keep changing the names and relationships in conflict. "Don't say this, but do say that". I also found quite a few typos, which instantly diminishes the credibility for me. Sorry
  • Destructive book

    By Jim in SDCA
    This book was probably very helpful when it came out 20+ years ago to help recognize that BDP is real. Trying to use it to help you is a different thing all together. I found this book to be very judgmental and mean. Dealing with BDP love one is very, very hard and this book creates destructive labels (queen, wicked witch, hermit, etc.) for people who are truly suffering from mental illness. Reading it made me depressed and hopeless feeling. Luckily I found TARA and a book not available on iBooks. The book is: Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder:A Family Guide for Healing and Change by Valerie Porr M.A.
  • The first step

    By AvgMoJoe
    Eye-opening revelation about your loved one who causes you so much chaos and confusion. And a first step to self-discovery!
  • Therapy for the NonBPD

    By NonBPD
    This book is an excellent tool to introduce BPD to anyone whose life has been affected by a BP. It helps bring understanding to the NonBPD's life and the knowledge that 'it's NOT all their fault', as the BP(s) in their life have so throughly convinced them. Reading this book while in therapy helped me break through this fallacy which I had always accepted unquestioningly as fact. Thank you for shining the light at the end of the tunnel.
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells

    By Nils Mungan
    From a partner of someone with borderline personality: Two years ago, I finally figured out what was wrong with me. I worked very hard to learn about myself and own my behavior. I changed gradually but markedly. Yet my relationship with my wife just seemed to get worse, no matter whose advice I followed (and I had a lot of professional help). My wife's behavior just got even worse and harder and harder to understand. Then I read this book, and finally my wife's behavior started to make sense to me! While at many times I felt a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach and despair at finally realizing that my wife had such a serious and difficult to treat condition, at least now I had a name for what was wrong with her. And that gave me hope, because it was when I finally got a name for what was wrong with me that things really began to change for me. I have already learned how to deal with her mood swings and abuse better, even though she does not recognize her part in any of the problems in our marriage, or even take any responsibility for her behavior. In the end, there is hope for me, whether I stay or go.